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Unpreschooling, part 1 value of play

by Beverley Paine

You've nurtured the little person in your life through her baby years, held her close and then supported and encouraged her as she toddled through exploring, discovering and investigating her world. Watching her learn is a joy. Her excitement and anticipation, her persistence, stubbornness and determination reassure you that she's a natural learner. Although you take her progress for granted, you are amazed at the speed and efficiency of this little learning machine! It's hard to keep up with her questions and her quest for new and interesting activities to do.

And then your mum says, "Now that she's three I guess she'll be starting preschool soon." It's actually a question, a request for reassurance that you are on track with preparing your child for school and the education she will need to succeed in life.

It's been in your mind for some time that you will home educate your little person. You've done some research and are ready to answer concerns about the legalities, social and academic aspects: in fact, you are feeling really confident about the whole idea and have settled on unschooling as the way your family will approach your children's education. You're keen to foster your child's natural learning ability. And then your mum, who wants to understand and support you, asks: "What is the difference between unschooling her and just letting her play?"

At a glance unschooling the preschooler definitely looks like "letting her play". The value of play and playful learning is lauded by developmental psychologists such as Peter Gray and early childhood educators. For the unschooler, a playful approach to life makes sense. Play embodies creativity and imagination. We are free to explore, discover, experiment, take risks and challenge ourselves when playing. We are, as Bernard DeKoven says in his book, A Playful Path, " vulnerable, responsive, yielding to the moment." Present and responsive. There are no rules other than those we create as we play. Learning is unbounded. Unschoolers trust in their natural sense of playfulness as an essential aspect of growth and development, not just in childhood but throughout life. And they trust and believe that play and curiosity is the foundation of a quality education.

But there's more happening in the little person's life than playing. Living is serious work to children. Playing is serious work too. Unschooling parents understand that a playful attitude and approach to the work we do maintains motivation and interest. This isn't the same as making activities and tasks fun. Fun evolves from doing things playfully. And preschool aged children are right into doing as much as they can, sometimes as obsessively as possible. and all too frequently the very things we'd rather they didn't!

Helping your little person navigate the path of her unique growth and development is challenging. It requires constant questioning and examining of your personal values and motives. It usually involves a gradual process of de-schooling, dismantling the conditioned mantras and trained habits about the nature and role of education you have accumulated and which come at you from every direction. It needs to be supported by a commitment to learning to trust in yourself and your child as natural learners. And that, at any moment in time, your child is learning what she needs to learn, in her own unique way and at a pace that suits that need. As a new mum you had faith in your baby's natural learning ability. As an unpreschooling mum you maintain that faith.

Unschooling is the same as living. It's life without school. Unpreschooling is living and learning without preschool. Instead of prepping your child to write her name, say the alphabet, count to ten or correctly identify colours and shapes because it's expected that three year olds will learn these things, you simply get on with life. You are both busy people doing interesting and constructive things on your own or with each other, taking care of the chores, looking after yourselves and others, getting involved, playing: being and doing. As the mum of an unpreschooler you naturally mark the milestones in your diary or blog, take photos, and stash your child's creations: moments when you recognise your child has mastered a new skill, reached an understanding or insight, or revealed knowledge that you didn't know she had. Your collection of 'moments' reassures you (and others) that living mindfully in this engaged and authentic way is enough, it is an appropriate and comprehensive education.

Between two and three years of age autonomy emerges strongly as an important developmental need. The development of their language skills, perception, memory and mobility assist children gain mastery of their environment. As they explore their growing sense of personal physical and intellectual power, together with the realization that they are individuals, they begin to express, often emphatically or forcefully, their likes and dislikes, needs and wants. As an unpreschooling parent you celebrate and nurture your child's emerging autonomy. By being mindfully attentive and tuning into her needs, likes and dislikes, interests, and how she prefers to learn, you can identify and sometimes anticipate her need and, as a result, it becomes easier to negotiate conflicts that arise when her emerging autonomy clashes with your needs. In a nutshell, getting to know this little person really well, how she ticks and what motivates her, and respecting her as a person, guides your parenting. It becomes a cooperative 'dance', sometimes led by her, sometimes led by you: the object is always the same, building respect and self-esteem, encouraging self-awareness and developing trust.

Choice is an essential element of unschooling: the freedom to learn in the way and at a pace that best suits the individual, what she needs to learn when. Offering her a plethora of choices has the same effect it does on adults: confusion and stress. As an unschooling mum, you know her likes and dislikes and can narrow down the choices to those that are appropriate to the situation. Removing arbitrary rules, limits and unnecessary obstacles and interventions enables the unpreschooler to exercise her ability to tune into her own sense of what she needs, empowering her to make decisions that work for her. Helping her manage and understand the consequences of her choices, both positive and negative, is enabling.

Your mum nods. You can tell she isn't fully convinced, that's she's formulating more questions, and that's okay. But it is time for both of you to play Beetle with the little person.

Unpreschooling, part two will look at how to encourage autonomous, self-directed learners who are interested in a range of activities, and what life as an unpreschooler looks like in practice. See also Unpreschooling part one value of play ,part three the art of strewing, part four schedule versus routine and Unpreschooling favourite toy shops

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