Should you send your young child to school if he asks to go?

"I'm really keen to homeschool my 3.5 year old, but lately he has been asking to go to school and preschool."

by Beverley Paine, May 2019

Home educated kids often ask if they can try school, or express an interest in it and want to go. Going to school is normal - it is what most kids do. And like most things they see around them, they're keen to find out about it. Consider this though: as toddlers they mad keen to help you with the chores but by the time they reached five and understood that it wasn't really playing, it was actually work, and that they need to be done everyday or most days even if you didn't want to do them, the shine had rubbed off doing the chores. School's a bit like that too.

This curiosity about school is something that comes and goes as kids grow through various stages of development. There are times when during our development we're full steam ahead learning everything that matters socially and we need to knock about with a range of people. Notice I said range of people. These people don't need to be same age peers!

School does satisfy this need, but the need isn't always present. Trouble is, school is. Preschool is okay because for most youngsters it's only one or two days a week, or a couple of hours each morning. There is plenty of down time to reflect, evaluate and process social, emotional, moral and intellectual experiences and learning. Most preschoolers move up to 'big school' at age five and for many this is developmentally early to be at school 6-7 hours a day, 5 days a week. It is convenient and handy, especially in our economic climate where it takes two incomes to pay the mortgage or rent and the never-ending bills.

We can protect our kids from exposure to this school-biased media but that's really difficult. A much better solution is to get out there, into the community. Hang out in different local playgrounds on the weekend - you'll meet a ton of parents and their kids. Go to cafes every so often. Visit museums. Go for walks around your neighbourhood, stop and pat dogs and chat to their owners and your neighbours. Invite other home educating families to visit you. Set up a few excursions to places you like going with your family, or want to visit as part of your home educating program. Take the kids food shopping with you.

And lastly, play 'school' at home. Set up some desks, take turns being the teacher. Create a school uniform. Pack lunches. Younger children love playing this game. We know what school is like and they don't. So share your memories and experiences with them in a fun way.